tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post5839684544835705825..comments2024-02-16T00:46:53.071-08:00Comments on The Sober Girl, Wife and Mum: Day 53 - Unsettled, snake head lady.Daisy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-37558542724784362832014-11-28T02:13:19.688-08:002014-11-28T02:13:19.688-08:00PS thanks for the love, straight back at cha.PS thanks for the love, straight back at cha.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-42806328043172082992014-11-28T02:13:03.470-08:002014-11-28T02:13:03.470-08:00I was born late. We do indeed take our sessions on...I was born late. We do indeed take our sessions on the same day I'm just after lunch so your'e earlier. I did think of you on Tues and read your blog after. You're not hte first to say maybe go back on the throttle a bit.<br /><br />Sober first, that's all I can do.<br /><br />Will try next week, arm house to treat central and be kind to myself.<br /><br />The week before last I went to Sainsbury's (of all places) and sat in their cafe for half an hour having lunch alone. That helped too.<br /><br />This time I was rushing back to get ready for hubby home - I think I need down time after these sessions. Just finding the right balance.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-91561673140410505342014-11-28T02:10:50.896-08:002014-11-28T02:10:50.896-08:00Stupid snake wielding wolfie. Just 'be' I ...Stupid snake wielding wolfie. Just 'be' I find very hard but I know I'm new to this and I'll get there. The anxiety, which we've talked about before is overwhelming.<br /><br />Bubble strengthing requried. That's for sure.<br /><br />Thank you anne.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-75543051924229957642014-11-28T02:09:37.483-08:002014-11-28T02:09:37.483-08:00Hey Rachel, hello, I popped over earlier. Nice blo...Hey Rachel, hello, I popped over earlier. Nice blog! I'm thinking so hard about the right combo of sober-treats for next tues.<br /><br />I'm thinking crusty bread and a home made pate my friend always makes when we visit, I'll need to prepare so that will take the fret away beforehand.<br /><br />Loud music in car is good.<br /><br />Film, never thought of that, good one, will give that a go x<br /><br />Thanks!Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-72963529841686257622014-11-28T02:07:56.543-08:002014-11-28T02:07:56.543-08:00Thank you a bit like snake charming, slowly slowly...Thank you a bit like snake charming, slowly slowly I think. Aesthetic distance sounds good. Thanks Lucy xDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-31684028127915684302014-11-28T02:07:04.690-08:002014-11-28T02:07:04.690-08:00Snakes and ladders, fabulous. Happy 104/5th day no...Snakes and ladders, fabulous. Happy 104/5th day now Lisa.<br /><br />Wine never helps.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-68729593247231555702014-11-28T02:06:36.874-08:002014-11-28T02:06:36.874-08:00Hey KT - sober shiny boots what a great expression...Hey KT - sober shiny boots what a great expression.<br /><br />Im sorry we missed you on the call, a good mix of brits and folks form over the pond. Thanks and hopefully you'll have a great holiday!Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-49838236035582500602014-11-28T02:05:23.648-08:002014-11-28T02:05:23.648-08:00Lori you and me both. Stealing sober is so not coo...Lori you and me both. Stealing sober is so not cool.<br /><br />My group session yesterday I mentioned the problem and she said maybe it was too soon. But I'll see for now. Patience and I'm slowly being careful. x<br /><br />PS thank you for the snake proof hugs. Much appreciated.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-33313354153659589632014-11-28T02:04:16.310-08:002014-11-28T02:04:16.310-08:00Hey thank you nice lovley person. I'm glad you...Hey thank you nice lovley person. I'm glad you're here, share away if you feel xDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-3997862652140049382014-11-27T23:25:56.607-08:002014-11-27T23:25:56.607-08:00late to comment here but sending you lots of hugs ...late to comment here but sending you lots of hugs and hope you're feeling a little less serpentine...I think we both have therapy sessions on the same mornings (Tuesdays?!) so will be thinking of you when I go into mine next week!<br /><br />I completely recognise that sensation of being wide open and vulnerable. as others have said, take very good care of yourself and if it's proving too triggery, ease back on the throttle a bit perhaps?<br /><br />sober first, everything else can come later, including head unfucking, yes?! lots of love! Prim xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-52649896915117603422014-11-27T13:33:42.284-08:002014-11-27T13:33:42.284-08:00Great job. Therapy does stir up a lot of stuff. Ta...Great job. Therapy does stir up a lot of stuff. Take good care of your self those days. Kind. Gentle.<br />It's tough to learn to live in the now and to just be when you are an all or nothing type. I know. But finding some comfort on the middle road has made my life so much better.<br /><br />Keep your bubble strong. Stupid wolfie.<br /><br />AnneAinsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-19471301058928809672014-11-27T03:17:12.044-08:002014-11-27T03:17:12.044-08:00A massive well done you! What a challenge to overc...A massive well done you! What a challenge to overcome but as you say, You. Did. It. Now you know you can do it, so you will do it the next time too. Next week you will be forewarned and ready to avoid the shops, have chocolate in.<br />The need for an alternative way to 'escape' and dampen it all down must be met in other ways. Try blasting some strong music out (+- earphones) or my favourite if I'm upset and crying is to watch a movie lying on the sofa where I quickly fall asleep during it, exhausted from spent emotions. The fact that i spend ages choosing the film then missing half of it is less important!<br /><br />come and say hello to me over at www.soberisthenewrachelblack.blogspot.co.uk<br /><br />Rachel xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00570384820379369822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-76771434882545028942014-11-26T13:02:21.805-08:002014-11-26T13:02:21.805-08:00Oh Daisy big snake defying hug coming your way. I...Oh Daisy big snake defying hug coming your way. I'm learning right now on my Cambridge course about finding the right aesthetic distance to look at our difficult emotions, not too close or we get overwhelmed but not too distant that we can intellectualise. If it's all getting too close ask her to stop and pull back, take a breath. Rome wasn't built in a day and your sobriety comes first so if it's getting too triggery back away for a bit. And thank you :) xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-40115421582867546412014-11-26T12:09:08.311-08:002014-11-26T12:09:08.311-08:00I have been there, read! it was nasty nasty nasty...I have been there, read! it was nasty nasty nasty! I ate my way through it. remember, for every snake, there is a LADDER. my therapist says its snakes and ladders. you can do this. its easier when you have dealt with the snakes as they are not going away unless you deal with them. trust me!! wine will NOT HELP. push, keep going. 103 days and loving it. fuck off snakes<br />hugs from nz<br />Lisa<br />www.thecword-compassion.comlisahttp://www.thecword-compassion.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-62402978789728171302014-11-26T11:00:04.626-08:002014-11-26T11:00:04.626-08:00Hi Daisy,
Great post. If something uncomfortable c...Hi Daisy,<br />Great post. If something uncomfortable comes up for me right now ( I am such a baby in sobriety) I just push it down and realize I am not ready to excavate the pain from my past. I know the day will come, but my sober boots are too shiny. I wanted to participate in the group call last nite, but am on vacation, and couldn't find my info. so glad you made that choice:)<br />As you mentioned, we are so lucky to have such awesome sober bloggers who have walked the walk and are so willing to share their path and what worked for them. You are doing great!! XO KT<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-53092118126536319972014-11-26T07:35:42.328-08:002014-11-26T07:35:42.328-08:00I HATE snakes! Even more so after reading this po...I HATE snakes! Even more so after reading this post! Those damn things tried to steal your sober. It's unsettling to think that your therapy session could trigger you to want a drink. So proud of you for winning the battle--it sounds like you had an overwhelming day, therapy and your man coming home. Sending serene, snake-proof hugs xx Lori KAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-5699699420652598082014-11-26T06:23:43.859-08:002014-11-26T06:23:43.859-08:00Great Job, Daisy! I just found your blog yesterday...Great Job, Daisy! I just found your blog yesterday and am really enjoying your posts. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. You are a strong lady!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com