tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post6169955607872527588..comments2024-02-16T00:46:53.071-08:00Comments on The Sober Girl, Wife and Mum: Here's where I'm atDaisy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-46911252522975242472015-08-10T15:41:14.510-07:002015-08-10T15:41:14.510-07:00Sobriety can be tough, and it is always going to b...Sobriety can be tough, and it is always going to be a process. It’s great that you stuck with it, despite all the things that could make you have a lapse. I guess it's a matter of keeping one's eye on the prize, so to speak.<br /><br /><a href="http://starkbehavioralhealth.com/" rel="nofollow">Sabra Hoffmann @ Stark Behavioral Health</a> Sabra Hoffmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10154633719848230528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-39383536475973717152015-07-06T14:47:27.333-07:002015-07-06T14:47:27.333-07:00:D:DDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-15717213937280233452015-07-06T14:47:17.780-07:002015-07-06T14:47:17.780-07:00Its interesting what you say there, testing, perha...Its interesting what you say there, testing, perhaps I hadn't thought of it like that. <br /><br />Skip straight to sober, nothing to see here. That's where I want to be.<br /><br />Maybe one day eh xxDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-85263536044785433822015-07-06T14:44:48.163-07:002015-07-06T14:44:48.163-07:00Hugs to you too xxx Well done on all those sober d...Hugs to you too xxx Well done on all those sober days. xDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-54592174829306964642015-07-06T14:44:20.587-07:002015-07-06T14:44:20.587-07:00Thank you lovely xThank you lovely xDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-83857524716450710952015-07-06T14:44:04.168-07:002015-07-06T14:44:04.168-07:00Mary thank you for sharing your experiences. You a...Mary thank you for sharing your experiences. You are right I think. I'd started therapy last year but found I was too early in my sober. I know I need to start working on some of my underlying issues but I still find myself reticent to start this in depth, I'm not sure why. <br /><br />Skippety hop minds is such an insightful way to phrase that.<br /><br />I must try meditation again xxDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-62161781100873169922015-07-06T14:40:15.425-07:002015-07-06T14:40:15.425-07:00Thank you UT-Teacher! Meeting was really helpful, ...Thank you UT-Teacher! Meeting was really helpful, they are starting a one to one programme review which I might sign up for. So it was helpful!Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-88768719966159373592015-07-06T14:39:13.312-07:002015-07-06T14:39:13.312-07:00No self care no. Some mornings waking up thinking ...No self care no. Some mornings waking up thinking OK so if I do this then and that next maybe I can fit it all in, isn't helpful is it. I took your advice and bought myself the biggest bunch of flowers you ever did see. x Thank you xDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-2768782395400936602015-07-06T14:37:42.907-07:002015-07-06T14:37:42.907-07:00Thank you lovely! xThank you lovely! xDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-522821769075959422015-07-05T13:59:18.662-07:002015-07-05T13:59:18.662-07:00*not to drink, clearly!!
D'oh*not to drink, clearly!!<br />D'oh Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-33668403415555017602015-07-05T13:58:14.320-07:002015-07-05T13:58:14.320-07:00Do you think you are testing yourself? Buying it ...Do you think you are testing yourself? Buying it but not drinking it, repeatedly; that's bloody hard to keep doing. Are you testing for the point when you DO drink it? I am very impressed you have managed to ditch the drink three times. I'm not sure I could be so strong. Big hugs to you my dear, oh my I relate so much to the "will I, won't I" struggle. I was given advice to immediately dismiss the idea of drinking. Don't even give it head room. Abstinence is at the top of your hierarchy of values. (All easier said than done, but, maybe having a firm decision not to dink allows you to not even consider it?)<br />I'm waffling. Sorry. Do xxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-43852311632732232062015-07-04T18:11:38.551-07:002015-07-04T18:11:38.551-07:00I am on day 12 and it is a holiday here in the US....I am on day 12 and it is a holiday here in the US. I have spent the day reading your blog from the beginning. I would read a page then work on my chores, then read another page. You are my hero today! <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-23662864550125425622015-07-02T15:50:12.372-07:002015-07-02T15:50:12.372-07:00I think you're amazing. If I got as far as buy...I think you're amazing. If I got as far as buying wine there is no way I'd pour it down the sink. What a brilliant job your'e doing. xMy time to shinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16901439496533901216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-65401753028000344062015-07-02T01:12:27.416-07:002015-07-02T01:12:27.416-07:00Hi Daisy -- it sounds to me as if you're goin...Hi Daisy -- it sounds to me as if you're going through what I used to call a white-knuckling period, when I was determined not to drink but a part of me was desperate, not just to drink, but to find some way of comforting or soothing myself. The little sober treats and mocktails weren't enough to help me be with myself. I kept lunging for alcohol and then backing off because i would lose so much if I relapsed. My partner was supportive but I couldn't really name what was going on inside me, the oscillating back and forth, why i kept losing my 'sobriety priority'. It was an unsettling and painful time, older memories and disappointments would surface along with triggers in the present.<br /><br />You've been through a devastating loss too and that may be a factor. I found in my first year sober that a very astute and insightful therapist helped me a great deal to look at underlying distress and why old patterns were emerging again.<br /><br />Regular meditation each morning helped me too, just to sit and deepen my breathing, notice what came up, what passed and what returned, preoccupations and niggly emotions, old associations. In meditation we get to know ourselves and our skippety-hop minds very well.<br /><br />Take care and hang in there, keep talking and reaching out for support. You can do this.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-49820727661837455862015-07-01T18:20:54.173-07:002015-07-01T18:20:54.173-07:00Daisy,
I am so glad you didn't drink.
I am als...Daisy,<br />I am so glad you didn't drink.<br />I am also glad you are going to a meeting.<br />And I am glad you are "telling on yourself".<br />This week, take extra good care of yourself.<br />Maybe someone in the meeting can help you!<br />xo<br />Wendy<br />Untipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-36329199788498187012015-07-01T05:58:12.710-07:002015-07-01T05:58:12.710-07:00Ouch, sorry you are having a rough time and sorry ...Ouch, sorry you are having a rough time and sorry your mother in law is clueless. Struck me a bit reading your post that I see not even a hint of self-care, I am so proud that you didn't drink, especially knowing how very close you were to it. Please add up what you spent on your alcohol purchases and put that towards something really nice for yourself. New sunglasses? Glad you are going to your meeting today, please know that everytime you reach out for help it strengthens you, build those sober connections, text, call or send up a flare anytime you need. Sending buckets of love, QDQuietlyDonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04205907751764908983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-51069695815054876752015-07-01T04:18:52.932-07:002015-07-01T04:18:52.932-07:00Writing about it here is a really good thing. I ad...Writing about it here is a really good thing. I admire you so much for pouring that stuff down the sink. I'm here for you. Annie xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com