tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post6724901068564245968..comments2024-02-16T00:46:53.071-08:00Comments on The Sober Girl, Wife and Mum: Day 145 - Daring to be soberDaisy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-63548623012043717312015-03-05T03:43:22.215-08:002015-03-05T03:43:22.215-08:00Thanks MTMTT - it was different that's for sur...Thanks MTMTT - it was different that's for sure and the kids took some home for dinner the next day. all good. :)<br /><br />I've been thinking about all of this, is it any wonder kids burn out so early or have issues if we're there charging about looking like we're juggling everything all at once. Perfect has a lot to answer for.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-27916146268144236222015-03-05T03:41:52.750-08:002015-03-05T03:41:52.750-08:00I hope so Prudence, they're probably wondering...I hope so Prudence, they're probably wondering where the real me is. :) xoDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-24792969114409609422015-03-05T03:41:20.378-08:002015-03-05T03:41:20.378-08:00Thanks lucy, that's very kind.Thanks lucy, that's very kind.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-47864084223436842015-03-05T03:41:06.052-08:002015-03-05T03:41:06.052-08:00Thanks Lisa`Thanks Lisa`Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-41235244230736572532015-03-05T03:40:53.663-08:002015-03-05T03:40:53.663-08:00I think they might take time to adjust I found a b...I think they might take time to adjust I found a bleary eyed daughter in the kitchen on the second day saying, I thought I'd missed you all, where were you.<br /><br />Um out walking, sleep my pretty, sleep all is cool.<br /><br />And thank you.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-43082636810379044582015-03-05T03:40:00.977-08:002015-03-05T03:40:00.977-08:00Anne that is so true of me. I'd have felt so r...Anne that is so true of me. I'd have felt so resentful and then angry when I couldn't put on the perfect family play. Thank you for sharing.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-21471301702295003392015-03-05T03:39:08.298-08:002015-03-05T03:39:08.298-08:00Ironically I'd have been snarling and moaning ...Ironically I'd have been snarling and moaning about creating the perfect family meal/experience, in my past life. I'm such a work in progress.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-47669477967278065322015-03-05T03:38:24.757-08:002015-03-05T03:38:24.757-08:00Perfect, I'm finding, is highly over-rated. Hu...Perfect, I'm finding, is highly over-rated. Hugs love.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-44167524311476661502015-02-27T04:14:31.470-08:002015-02-27T04:14:31.470-08:00Roast chicken and christmas hats on the sofa in fr...Roast chicken and christmas hats on the sofa in front of a movie at ten o'clock at night - sounds just brilliant, and I bet it is something that your kids will be demanding every time they come from now on! Oh, how I recognise those desperate attempts to look perfect, be perfect, make it look effortless, all the while seething with resentment underneath that no-one is noticing or appreciating all the work. Exhausting!! Your weekend sounds *much* better, and I am sure that everyone enjoyed it more as a result. So pleased it went well. Good for you. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-37624139871033032062015-02-27T03:28:49.678-08:002015-02-27T03:28:49.678-08:00You're a winner Daisy. I'll bet your kids ...You're a winner Daisy. I'll bet your kids are quietly blown away by this new more relaxed and less perfect you that they are needing to adapt to. And it's only going to get better, and better, and better xoxoPrudencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14296042437400909930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-66935089248211698242015-02-27T03:28:32.869-08:002015-02-27T03:28:32.869-08:00You're a winner Daisy. I'll bet your kids ...You're a winner Daisy. I'll bet your kids are quietly blown away by this new more relaxed and less perfect you that they are needing to adapt to. And it's only going to get better, and better, and better xoxoPrudencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14296042437400909930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-57772661736335130802015-02-27T02:01:23.923-08:002015-02-27T02:01:23.923-08:00Beautiful and awesome Daisy :) xxBeautiful and awesome Daisy :) xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-5259551217909374962015-02-27T00:15:44.721-08:002015-02-27T00:15:44.721-08:00HEY. how cool are you? that s fantastic news and ...HEY. how cool are you? that s fantastic news and yes, I am sure your kids loved their relaxed, fun mum!<br />hugs<br />Lisalisahttp://www.thcword-compasson.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-32117956379594608052015-02-26T10:55:25.289-08:002015-02-26T10:55:25.289-08:00So happy to hear about your "perfectly imperf...So happy to hear about your "perfectly imperfect" weekend, it sounds nice. I'm sure your kids were happy to just hang out and not be on a rigid schedule. I've been thinking about you, and hoping it all went well, sounds like it did! Another sober victory! 145 days is awesome!! Lori K xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-63084473610615993662015-02-26T10:26:31.103-08:002015-02-26T10:26:31.103-08:00What a great weekend.
I used to make all that effo...What a great weekend.<br />I used to make all that effort for things to be just so. Grand plans.<br />And then the stress and resentment would build and I would drink more and things often fell apart. Or, they didn't, but inside I felt taken for granted. It was bizarre.<br /><br />The truth is, our actions to be perfect really male everyone around us uncomfortable. We are not hiding the strain as well as we think.Your kids probably preferred this you. Even if it took some getting used to.<br /><br />While we are parents, we are also people. And there is no reason we should hide that!<br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing your journey. <br /><br />Anne (ainsobriety)Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-56493420870150366892015-02-26T08:53:24.686-08:002015-02-26T08:53:24.686-08:00I'm so glad you had a good weekend. It's s...I'm so glad you had a good weekend. It's sounds lovely. And yes, Like Annie says, it's so helpful to see how much of the stress if that nasty perfectionism. I'm working on that, too, and getting better, but it's great to hear you model what being patient with yourself sounds like. Thanks for the inspiration! xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288935120774241198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-32384945567282128462015-02-26T07:17:18.766-08:002015-02-26T07:17:18.766-08:00Such a helpful, thoughtful post. I am ALWAYS tryin...Such a helpful, thoughtful post. I am ALWAYS trying to be perfect; I am always beating myself up when I don't have that apron on, making the perfect meal. I need to know that whatever I'm doing - sober - is OK. Annie xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com