tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post6864199932459038979..comments2024-02-16T00:46:53.071-08:00Comments on The Sober Girl, Wife and Mum: RoutinesDaisy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-26282506405525221252015-10-23T00:51:51.136-07:002015-10-23T00:51:51.136-07:00Thank you I'm glad you find it helpful. routin...Thank you I'm glad you find it helpful. routines do help us don't they.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-77357003955801666832015-10-23T00:51:35.208-07:002015-10-23T00:51:35.208-07:00My SMART routine has wained with work and life get...My SMART routine has wained with work and life getting in the way. Yup, I know I should make more effort to go. I really will go this week honest injun. I will bring it up at check in :) I'm on the list for a therapist...................and dream wolfie can piss right the fuck off!!! xxxxDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-54578437158758079092015-10-22T14:10:37.390-07:002015-10-22T14:10:37.390-07:00Your blog is music to my soul. I totally relate to...Your blog is music to my soul. I totally relate to everything you have written. When you go to rehab. they have strict routines in place. Personally I loved rehab. Lily Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06576006016105378828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-3977271513260427252015-10-22T12:06:03.446-07:002015-10-22T12:06:03.446-07:00Two things sprung to mind when I read this lovely ...Two things sprung to mind when I read this lovely Daisy - you have the routine of SMART have you taken this to a meeting to discuss and if you were going to therapy (did you start this again?) I would be taking this to that space too :) Big hugs & fuck off dream wolfie!! xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06826757501842922826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-10836764422863377792015-10-22T10:45:18.566-07:002015-10-22T10:45:18.566-07:00I think I love that poem Do thank you xxx I think ...I think I love that poem Do thank you xxx I think we both know the answer to future happiness is not drinking and letting go of the glamour we sometimes look back at in rose tinted specs. xx<br /><br />I love the 'in the wee small hours of the morning' song as well. The beasties and monsters are big in the early light.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-68595957200700211852015-10-22T10:44:00.053-07:002015-10-22T10:44:00.053-07:00Smashing me? Grins. Thank you. I find her approach...Smashing me? Grins. Thank you. I find her approach (fly lady) quite soothing in an odd way. I think the 'jump right in where you are, you are not behind.' Its the logic and forgiveness (god I sound SO cheesy) that I like. <br /><br />I think a lot of her methods are based in recovery by the familiarity of a lot of the language and there are many parallels for me - being sober isn't as bad as thinking about it endlessly. A bit like cleaning, start small, do it and instantly you feel like you've achieved something, slowly things come into place.<br /><br />XXDaisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-86314350475256195302015-10-22T10:39:36.923-07:002015-10-22T10:39:36.923-07:00Hey thanks feeling - I think I have a love hate re...Hey thanks feeling - I think I have a love hate relationship with routines. I like the structure but you're right, strict as they can be they get right on top of me and i hate myself. I did get up early today and read your post and thought yup she's right. So I was mindful of getting on with the mornings tasks without too much boot camp. I even managed to get to work on time. Wowser. Will look at nightmare inducing foods......don't think my diet has changed but will see.... thanks for posting.Daisy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655799879447853508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-87425178682183547682015-10-22T06:08:21.827-07:002015-10-22T06:08:21.827-07:00Hi Daisy
At the moment I dream and dream of drinki...Hi Daisy<br />At the moment I dream and dream of drinking, whether I am awake or asleep. It seems my head is constantly full of thoughts of that perfect glass of wine. Maybe I am trying to regress, as like you I am trying to "sort out" my home and my garden and my whole scene of domestic chaos. Maybe I can't do it, and plunging back into drinking after over a year sober gives me the excuse: I can mutter "look, I SAID I couldn't do it!" to myself <br /><br />Anyway. Keep with it my dear. It's still better being sober, my head and heart do know that, even when I am being seduced by my crazy fantasies of "just one glass / bottle / night / weekend" of wine.<br /><br />Here's poem I really like. It's by Fleur Adcock, and called Things.<br /><br /><br />"There are worse things than having behaved foolishly in public.<br />There are worse things than these miniature betrayals,<br />committed or endured or suspected; there are worse things<br />than not being able to sleep for thinking about them.<br />It is 5 a.m. All the worse things come stalking in<br />and stand icily about the bed looking worse and worse<br />and worse."<br /><br />I like your blog. I read "sober" blogs, too, to keep me on track, hopefully, and this is a favourite. It's not waffle.<br /><br />Hugs, Do xx<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-23444904130129643952015-10-21T23:23:18.943-07:002015-10-21T23:23:18.943-07:00Dear Daisy I too have done the Flylady (many years...Dear Daisy I too have done the Flylady (many years ago now when I had small children and before they were old enough to help around the house much - shudder!) so I'm very familiar with her process. I would say that the morning routine is the thing that has stuck with me the most and I do have one still. Esp having got sober it feels like 'my time' where I can do what I want before anyone else surfaces to get my day on the right track. And in the last nearly two years that includes checking sober blogs after feeding dog and while having breakfast. I heard somewhere that we have more control over the start and the end of our days than we do over the middle. The rebel in me (maybe in you too?!) likes thinking "I'm doing this MY way" rather than thinking "I'm following someone else's rules." Oh and remembering that you are smashing is important too ;) good luck with your new process and hope sleep improves! prim xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8816666332655403098.post-45880558155478468032015-10-21T15:44:51.739-07:002015-10-21T15:44:51.739-07:00Hi Daisy,
Sorry to hear you are having these nasty...Hi Daisy,<br />Sorry to hear you are having these nasty dreams. We don't know eachother well so please let me know when you don't appreciate what I write here.<br /><br />The vibes I get from your post is that you are in a tight spot and panicking. And to me it seems like you want to punish yourself into shape by putting a routine on you which you very much dislike. Last time I checked we can not hate ourself into shape. :-) <br /><br />On the dreams: sounds awful, that first. My view of dreams is that they inform us (me!!) where our (sub)conscious is at. So either you fear drinking, you like it OR you are processing the tail of your addiction: it shows up in your dreams. That's all I know and I also want to add that certain food types can cause or stimulate nasty dreams and restless sleep amongst which e.g. spinach. Not saying it is something from the oudside (wow, that is actually kind of addicty to think so :-)) but it can. You could google on 'food that causes nightmares' e.g.<br /><br />Hope my reply helps you a little. Hope to read the rest of of your posts this week! :-)<br /><br />xx, FeelingFeelinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02368335344721960600noreply@blogger.com