Tuesday, 4 November 2014

Day 31 - Sober treats

So this arrives today. My sober bed, exactly this beautiful bed. I seem to be investing so much time and energy into being/staying sober that my first sober treat whilst a bit on the over-decadent side, cost almost exactly the same as last months wine money.

Whilst we've just moved into our new 'marriage' house, and I'm not working money is more than a little tight, but I've always found money for wine and associated wine treats/hangover remedies. We've some furniture and a few more bits to find, like a bed for the spare room. So the new bed will move into our room and the old hand-me-down bed to the spare room. This bed is MY sober bed.

Each day I put a fiver (£5) in a jar at the start of the day. Its like my own sober pledge. This money will not be spent on wine today. It sits on the shelf growing the more sober I become. Yes I could spend the money on groceries or on my children, or on shoes. But, this month I promised myself I could buy something for me.

31 days sober = £155 in my jar. [I count it everyday like a modern day Fagan]. My bed, that bed up there, that sober bed cost £159 with a nice new mattress. I'm going to use my £5 from tomorrow to make up the difference. So you see I'll have to be sober tomorrow too. Whilst I'm not very materialistic, how much more fun could my wine-money be if I didn't spend it on wine.

My sleep is so much more improved by not drinking, a nice new sober bed seemed just the ticket. 

Now, don't worry I'm not going to be frittering my newly wine-savings on silly purchases each month, that's very unlike me. But for this month, I wanted to show myself I could do it. I could do what I haven't done my whole adult life and that is to stay sober for one month. On the other hand, if I used the wine-money as a 'treats fund' would that be so bad?

It's certainly better for my liver. Today I feel proud. I've stopped and started and stopped and started giving up for so long now, a month for me is a real big deal.

Thanks for helping me along with this. You're all awesome for taking the time to pop in and comment. For all of you on the forums at Living Sober, thank you. For Women in Sobriety, thank you and for the sober podcasts and all the countless sober beautiful bloggers out there giving each day time to help people like me, THANK YOU. My sober tool box is out and being used every day. I'll keep adding to it as I can. I'll stop gushing now!

I'm out at a concert with the kids tonight so won't get this built up today, but tomorrow, you bet I'll be spanner in hand, building my very own first sober bed. I've been thinking of some new bedding too but maybe not this particular 'wolfie' cover.

Sober Wife, making a new home for us to share, embracing the changes instead of feeling lonely.
Sober Mum, messaged the kids about meeting up later today for a concert.
Sober Girl, excited about her one month sober, she might even put some 'fairy lights' around the new sober bed, just to be silly.

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  1. You should feel proud Daisy, one month is a huge deal. Well done you. Enjoy your beautiful sober bed unblemished by restless alcohol filled nights. Fresh! Hurrah!
    Rose x

  2. What a fantastic sober treat and such a great idea! :) Love the wolfie duvet cover too ;) Congrats Daisy - you are rocking the sober look! xx

  3. What a perfect present for yourself. You deserve it!
    Great job on the month!

    Give the bubble hour a listen too. It's excellent.

  4. Lovely sober bed, hope it is easy to assemble, glad to read you are feeling better after weekend troubles. Enjoy the concert you've earned it! Happy first month sober, I promise it is worth it!